Self-reliance toolkit
There’s a deep feeling of aloneness that comes with self-reliance. You can be surrounded by people, but you feel like you’re all alone in it.
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Ali Abdaal
YouTuber, Productivity Expert
"AOA is absolutely life-changing. It’s helped every aspect of my life including productivity, purpose and happiness.
Step 1
It’s an illusion all the way down
One is it’s really hard to experience getting help, even if you’re getting it, you don’t get to experience that you’re getting help. You make it transactional or you push it away.
Watch - Self-Reliance Is A Trap
Step 2
Express your wants, express your needs
But generally the way to do all of them is to do them with an open heart. How do you ask for what you want with a whole bunch of love? How do you express your needs with a whole bunch of love?
Watch - Why It’s Hard to Ask for Help, Say What You Want or Show Hurt
Step 3
They need to feel that helplessness
At the bottom of that emotional slide is this deep sense of helplessness that they didn’t want to feel. You don’t learn to be self-reliant unless there was a point when you had this deep sense of helplessness that you didn’t want to feel.
1. Listen - Emotional Inquiry
2. Watch - Feel Over Figure
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